The Spectrum Mum Coach
Helping mums reclaim their calm and confidence.
Are you an overwhelmed Spectrum Mum who wants to restore calm and balance to their lives and build really meaningful relationships in their family?
Then you're in EXACTLY the right place
My coaching isn’t about adding to your plate
It’s about making the plate lighter, helping you feel strong, centred, and capable again.
Because when you invest in yourself, the ripple effect touches everyone you love.
I’m Nicola Davies-Cooke
From Surviving To Thriving:
My Journey As A Spectrum Mum
The Struggle
For years, I looked like I had it together.
Three kids, a busy marriage, work I cared about. On the outside, I seemed capable.
But on the inside? I was running on empty.
When my youngest child, Hugh, was born, I knew enough about the developmental history on both sides of our family to expect some learning difficulties, but what I was totally unprepared for was the emotional rollercoaster that I suddenly discovered I was riding.
The overwhelm I was already carrying went through the roof.
Our days were a mix of meltdowns, therapy appointments, and constant juggling caregiving with helping my husband on the farm.
I remember often lying awake at night, replaying every detail: “Did I say the wrong thing?", "Did I miss something?", "Am I even enough for this role?”
I’m Nicola Davies-Cooke
And this is my story
From Surviving To Thriving:
My Journey As A Spectrum Mum
The Struggle
For years, I looked like I had it together.
Three kids, a busy marriage, work I cared about. On the outside, I seemed capable.
But on the inside? I was running on empty.
When my youngest child, Hugh, was born, I knew enough about the developmental history on both sides of our family to expect some learning difficulties, but what I was totally unprepared for was the emotional rollercoaster that I suddenly discovered I was riding.
The overwhelm I was already carrying went through the roof.
Our days were a mix of meltdowns, therapy appointments, and constant juggling caregiving with helping my husband on the farm.
I remember often lying awake at night, replaying every detail: “Did I say the wrong thing?", "Did I miss something?", "Am I even enough for this role?”
From Surviving To Thriving:
My Journey As A Spectrum Mum
The Struggle
For years, I looked like I had it together.
Three kids, a busy marriage, work I cared about. On the outside, I seemed capable.
But on the inside? I was running on empty.
When my youngest child, Hugh, was born, I knew enough about the developmental history on both sides of our family to expect some learning difficulties, but what I was totally unprepared for was the emotional rollercoaster that I suddenly discovered I was riding.
The overwhelm I was already carrying went through the roof.
Our days were a mix of meltdowns, therapy appointments, and constant juggling caregiving with helping my husband on the farm.
I remember often lying awake at night, replaying every detail: “Did I say the wrong thing?", "Did I miss something?", "Am I even enough for this role?”
I’m Nicola Davies-Cooke
From Surviving To Thriving:
My Journey As A Spectrum Mum
The Struggle
For years, I looked like I had it together.
Three kids, a busy marriage, work I cared about. On the outside, I seemed capable.
But on the inside? I was running on empty.
When my youngest child, Hugh, was born, I knew enough about the developmental history on both sides of our family to expect some learning difficulties, but what I was totally unprepared for was the emotional rollercoaster that I suddenly discovered I was riding.
The overwhelm I was already carrying went through the roof.
Our days were a mix of meltdowns, therapy appointments, and constant juggling caregiving with helping my husband on the farm.
I remember often lying awake at night, replaying every detail: “Did I say the wrong thing?", "Did I miss something?", "Am I even enough for this role?”
The Turning Point
Burnout crept in quietly until it shouted loud. Finally I realised I couldn’t keep living in survival mode. That was my wake-up call.
So I went searching. I became a personal development junkie. I studied human behaviour, became an NLP practitioner, and began to understand the nervous system in a whole new way.
And I learned that I didn’t need to do more — I needed to show up differently.
When I shifted ME, something extraordinary happened: my kids responded differently, too. Calm began to replace chaos.
My Experience
Parents would often tell me:
Between my family’s journey and my professional path, I’ve been immersed in the world of neurodiversity for most of my life. Autism, ADHD, dyslexia, sensory sensitivities — they aren’t abstract ideas for me.
Why I Coach
Here’s what I know now: most spectrum mums don’t need more information or strategies stacked onto their already impossible to-do lists.
What they really need is a way to reclaim themselves — to feel calmer, stronger, and more confident so they can create a ripple effect of change in their families.
That’s why I created my coaching program. It’s not about fixing you or your child — because neither of you are broken. It’s about helping you breathe again, manage your energy, and find a steadier rhythm so life feels lighter.
I believe with all my heart that when a mum transforms her inner world, her outer world shifts with her.
And that’s the gift I now share with other mums — the chance to move from surviving to thriving, one empowered step at a time.
Kick Start Your Journey
To Becoming A Confident Spectrum Mum
Confidence is a sense of feeling sure about oneself and one’s abilities – in a safe and secure way, not through arrogance. It’s not about feeling superior to others, because there are many areas where we may not be “as capable as” another. But when we feel sure of our own capabilities in a particular activity or situation, we can call ourselves confident.
Developing confidence has been such a huge area of personal growth for me, over the last 30 years especially, and I trust that, as you read the stories I’m sharing here, you can relate them to a side of you that you’d like to polish up and enable to shine.
Because everything I do is about SHINE. I help parents and carers of people with disabilities to develop their confidence. When we harness the core of ourselves, the gem that is confidence is there! It's just sitting there, ready and waiting for the day when it’s unleashed.
